If you know me or have been a part of this blog for awhile you know I proudly call myself a modern-day bluestocking. I haven’t posted about that in awhile and since it’s Random Friday I thought this would be a perfect time to do it. You can read more about being a modern-day bluestocking by reading Shamed For Being A Modern Day Bluestocking
I’ve learned a lot of things that have helped me in my life by reading historical romances. A lot of it applies to real life romance and has helped me stay away from guys that wouldn’t respect me.
You don’t have to say yes to every person that asks you out
By reading I have learned that just because I’m asked doesn’t mean I have to say yes. I will only say yes to the ones I want to and won’t be pressured into it. It’s not always about playing the field to find out what you are looking for. You need to be interested in them to say yes.
You need to share some views, beliefs, and interests
Yes, opposites attract and that is great in most cases, but you need to be alike in somethings if they are very important to you. I love to read and talk about books and that’s something I would love to have in common with someone, but just them respecting it if they don’t share it is fine. Then I have some views and beliefs that are strong and I need someone that shares them. Being on opposites sides doesn’t always mesh in this case.
You deserve respect at all times
Everyone should be respected at all times. If they put down anything about you from looks to interests then they don’t respect you. I’ve been put down for reading, the types of books I read, not wearing makeup all the time, and many other things. I will not be with someone that does that.
Be you no matter what
You are you for a reason and shouldn’ hide it or change for anyone. If you are very smart don’t play dumb to get someones attention. If you dress a certain way or don’t wear makeup don’t change unless you want to for yourself. I wear makeup when I want to and don’t hide my love of romance and books. Don’t be pressured to change your views, choices, looks, beliefs, or interests.