The Myths and Realities of Romance Readers

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It’s Random Friday and that means it’s time for another topic that has been on my mind lately. This week is the myths and realities of romance readers. There is a backstory to why this has been on my mind and I’m going to share that. As a romance reader and writer, I get many different reactions that range from happy to crazy looks when I say I read and write romance, but one recently sparked this post.

Backstory: A guy said he loved to read too and when talking about book genres he proceeded to say romance novels were stupid, but that he would love to read what I have written. Now this conversation was on Facebook and like all my social media it says that I read and write romance and he had to have read my page to know I am an aspiring writer so he saw that I was a romance lover.

This conversation reminded me of all the myths that surround romance readers. So here are some myths vs realities that I have encountered.

Myth #1. They are full of sex 

many people believe all romances are full of sex and X-rated so they are turned on by them and shouldn’t be talked about.

The Reality: There are many levels of heat in romances ranging from only chaste kisses and no mention of sex to many full open door sex scenes that are explicit. Everyone has their preferences to the heat levels they read and many read them for the stories and not to be turned on.

Myth #2. They give unrealistic standards for men

This is another one that many believe. They think that readers develop unrealistic standards when it comes to men from reading romances and that the men are always perfect.

The Reality: Most of the men in romances are not unrealistic or perfect. There are bad boys, damaged men (although a hate the term damaged), some that try to be perfect, and some with secrets. They do give many woman higher standards, but mostly in regards to how they should be treated and respected.

Myth #3. They are fairy tales and couldn’t happen in real life

Another thing many believe is that romances are fairy tales that could never happen in real life at all. Perfect lives and no real problems for the characters or only one thing to over come.

The Reality: Many of the stories mirror real life with the problems and obstacles to over come. Some authors are inspired by their own stories or other real life stories. There are no perfect lives and easy rides to finding love. Who wants to have a boring perfect life.

Myth #4. You need a real man in your life

Another myth is that every romance reader is a single middle aged woman with no life and need a man. Or they are in a loveless marriage and need to escape into books.

The Reality: Readers come in all ages and with different relationship statuses. Many readers and writers are very happily married to the men of their dreams that are like some of the characters in romances. Some are single but have active lives with and without a man. They don’t live in houses with just cats.

 Myth #5. You have marriage or sex on the brain

If you read romance you either have marriage on the brain and it sends some men running. Or you are obsessed with sex and that’s all you want from men.

The Reality: For most readers, this is not true. Just like reading a sci-fi book doesn’t make you want to be an alien or being a wedding planner means your obsessed with weddings and being married (believe me, it doesn’t). Like in myth #1 there isn’t always sex in romances.

Myth #6. Romance readers are only women

All romance readers are women and there is nothing in them for men. Men would never touch a romance novel no matter the sub-genre.

The Reality: There are men that read romances. Look in any large romance Facebook group and you will probably find a few. Many are in the western groups and actively talk about the books with others.

Myth #7. Romances are only about a man and woman

Romances always feature a man and woman as the couple and never show any LGBT couples or anything considered taboo.

The Reality: While straight couples are usually what you see. There are romances that feature LGBT couples and even romances with three or more people in the relationship. There is something for everyone.

Bonus myth about writers.

Myth #8. If you write romance you are obsessed with sex and your husband must love reading your books.

Writers are obsessed with sex and that’s why they write it. That because all writers are women then their husbands love to act out scenes and read their books.

The Reality: Many don’t write sex scenes at all in their books. Also, many that are married will tell you that their husbands or wives (there are men that write romance and not all female writers are married to men and vice versa) don’t ever read their books. They are also asked about acting out scenes all the time and the answer is usually no they don’t act them out.

 

That it for the myths. Do you have any to add to the list? feel free to comment below or join my Facebook group to chat more about this.

 

What I’m Reading This Week: Christy Carlyle and Vanessa Kelly

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I hope everyone had a great Father’s day! Ours was a quiet one with just my dad’s picking what he wanted us to make for supper (fish), a card, and gift. I didn’t get a chance to read all weekend but have some book to read this week.

Wednesday I will have a review of Christy Carlyle’s A Study in Scoundrels. I can’t wait to read this one. Friday will be an ARC review of Three Weeks with a Princess by Vanessa Kelly! I loved the first one in this series.

Tomorrow is release day for The Pleasures of Passion (Sinful Suitors #4) by Sabrina Jeffries and you can read my review by clicking that link.

 

Release Tour and Review for The Disappearance of Lady Edith (The Undaunted Debutantes #1) by Christina McKnight

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The Disappearance of Lady Edith

Series: The Undaunted Debutantes Series (Book One)

Author: Christina McKnight

Genre: Historical Romance, Regency England

Release Date: May 23, 2017

Word Count: 45,000

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Synopsis:

One tragic night changed sensible, proper Lady Edith Pelton’s life: when her best friend fell to her death, pushed down a flight of stairs by a nefarious lord.  Now, Edith dedicates her time to watching the man she thinks is responsible, while gathering information to expose other scoundrels posing as gentlemen of honor about London. When her spying is noticed by a perfect stranger, Edith finds herself with two mysteries—what happened to her friend, and how to win the heart of this brilliantly handsome lord.

Triston Neville, Viscount Torrington, has been tasked with two duties for the upcoming Season: see that his sisters make the most of their debut, and avoid embroiling himself in another scandal. What he does not expect is the captivating, fair-haired beauty that literally falls into his path. When the mysterious Lady Edith suddenly disappears without a trace, Triston fears his past misdeeds may have returned to destroy his life once more.


Can Triston piece together the puzzle in time to save Edith and prove that his love is nothing less than honorable?

My Review

My Rating: ❤❤❤❤❤

Spice Level: 💋 1/2

*I received a copy in exchange for my honest review.

What a great start to a new series! This one had twists and mysteries that I couldn’t figure out fully and I love that. I was not expecting the reason that she disappeared or who was behind it at all and never knew what was going to happen next with it everything. I loved their first meeting so much! The ending was perfect and I can’t wait for the next one to see how the story unfolds.

Edith is very different. She wants proof before she does anything and isn’t afraid of anything. I loved her from the start because she always seemed to have a plan and she spoke her mind. She also thought of others first even when she was in danger.

Triston will do anything for his sisters even when it mixes with his past. His scandal was not one I expected and it explained a lot. I loved him right away because of how he was with his sisters and that he was a quick thinker.

Excerpt

I have seen many oxen with broader shoulders,”—she smirked, pulling back and leaning to the side as if to get a glimpse of his backside—“and far more accentuated hindquarters.”

She gulped.

No laughter remained as he narrowed his eyes on her. “Did you just compare my physique to that of a farm animal?”

Edith took a step back—damnation, she would not cower to him. “If you prefer, I can select another animal. A donkey, perhaps? They are well-known for their obstinacy. Or better yet, an African lion, I have read they are intimidating creatures.”

You think me intimidating?” It was Torrington who took a step back this time, as if her words had wounded him. “Wait, do not answer that question—I have a far more important one: why do you keep appearing everywhere I am?”

It is not I who keeps appearing,” Edith corrected. “I was minding my own business outside of Abercorn’s townhouse. You are the one who scared me from the tree. And you were the one who caught my eye in the ballroom. And I was enjoying an afternoon in the park when—“ She clamped her mouth shut.

Enjoying an afternoon in the park until…you saw me and decided to follow?” he demanded. “I may very well be as large as an ox, or as stubborn as a donkey, or even as domineering as a lion, but at least I am not a snake—slithering and sneaking about, ready to bite and poison when the mood strikes.”

Edith gasped, covering her mouth with her hand.

Oh, you find it belittling to be compared to a bloody animal?” he sneered. “Well, I find it insulting to be lied to, followed, and scrutinized by a woman I do not know.”

Edith sighed. “I have not been following you, I swear to it.”

Not a complete lie, or at least she hadn’t been at Lord Abercorn’s townhouse to spy on Triston—she allowed herself to think of him by his given name—nor had she attended the ball with Ophelia and Luci expecting to see him. And the park, well, that was rather serendipitous. She had decided to keep an eye on him, but she’d never thought to follow him out of London proper.

Edith glanced to the window, but the drapes were pulled securely shut. “The day must be growing late. My parents will surely be wondering where I am when I don’t arrive home on schedule.”

I know what you are up to, Lady Edith Pelton.” His stance widened as he surveyed her from head to toe.

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Author Bio:
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Christina McKnight is a book lover turned writer. From a young age, her mother encouraged her to tell her own stories. She’s been writing ever since.

Christina enjoys a quiet life in Northern California with her family, her wine, and lots of coffee. Oh, and her books…don’t forget her books! Most days she can be found writing, reading, or traveling the great state of California.

You can visit her online at the following places: Website | Facebook | Twitter | Goodreads | Amazon

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ARC Review: A Raging Madness (The Golden Redepennings Book 2) by Jude Knight

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A Raging Madness by Jude Knight

My Rating: ❤❤❤❤❤

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Blurb

Their marriage is a fiction. Their enemies are all too real.

Ella survived an abusive and philandering husband, in-laws who hate her, and public scorn. But she’s not sure she will survive love. It is too late to guard her heart from the man forced to pretend he has married such a disreputable widow, but at least she will not burden him with feelings he can never return.

Alex understands his supposed wife never wishes to remarry. And if she had chosen to wed, it would not have been to him. He should have wooed her when he was whole, when he could have had her love, not her pity. But it is too late now. She looks at him and sees a broken man. Perhaps she will learn to bear him. 

In their masquerade of a marriage, Ella and Alex soon discover they are more well-matched than they expected. But then the couple’s blossoming trust is ripped apart by a malicious enemy. Two lost souls must together face the demons of their past to save their lives and give their love a future.

My Review

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This one had me glued to it from the start! There is a mystery from the start with why her in-laws hate her so much and why they are doing what they are doing to her. It was clear from the start that they were a perfect match, but so many things were keeping them apart. I kept hoping that they wouldn’t be ripped apart. I figured out parts, but still got hit with others and loved it. There are so many details that I loved and once it ended I didn’t want it to be over. This is one that you take your time reading for good reasons.

Ella wasn’t going to go down without a fight. I loved her spirit from the start because with everything she had been through she kept her head up. She was a fighter and slowly realized that she a lady even without a title and money. You just love her instantly.

Alex has always cared about and loved Ella. I loved him from the start because he didn’t let his injury get in his way and knew he had to help her. He was a bit surprising at times, but those surprises make you love him more from how he talks about horses and why he won’t breed for the army to the story he told about the lessons his brothers taught him.

I highly recommend this book.

Excerpt

Half an hour later, there was a knock on the door.

Ella, expecting a maid or Susan, called out, “Enter.”

Alex opened the door just enough to slide inside and closed it again behind him.

Before you say, I know I shouldn’t be here, but I had to tell you first, before anyone else.”

Ella frowned. He looked… stunned. As if someone had hit him on the side of the head with a large plank and he had registered the blow but not yet the pain. Swiftly, she crossed the room and took his hands.

What is it? What has happened? What can I do?”

I don’t think there is anything to be done. The King… They said a barony, but I never expected this.” He shook his head. “I am not making sense. I have had a shock.”

Sit down.” She tugged his hand and he followed her unresisting to the seat by the fire.

There. Can I get you some water? Where does it hurt?”

The King has made me a viscount, Ella. Aldridge said a baron, which was ridiculous enough. But apparently, he had a spare viscountcy, so there you are. Viscount Renshaw.” He bowed slightly in the chair, more of a nod of the head. “At your service.”

But…” She frowned, trying to understand. “That is not a bad thing, Alex, surely? My lord, I mean.”

See? That is exactly what I was afraid of.” He looked disgusted, but at least less pole axed than when he arrived. “I have spent weeks trying to get you to regard me as an ordinary man, and what does the King do? If you call me ‘my lord’, Ella, I swear I will not be accountable for my actions.”

You are though. Lord Renshaw.”

Me and the heirs male of my body,” he agreed, gloomily, then brightened a little. “The estate is not a bad size and is in the Lincolnshire Wolds, which is good horse country. It will be in terrible condition, I imagine, for the King to give it away, but it might be a good base for our horse breeding, do you not think? We could go and see it after Christmastide.”

Ella’s mind was still on the heirs male. He would have to marry. That is what peers did. She should not mind. After all, except for one kiss that burned in her memory, there was nothing between them. Only friendship. But when she had agreed to partner him in the venture, she had owned a colt, and she had not thought of him having a wife. Surely he understood it could no longer be ‘our’ venture?

He misunderstood her silence. “No. I suppose you will not come. I will go and inspect it, and report, Ella.” He pulled himself to his feet. “I had better go before someone catches me in your room. Please do not hate me for being a peer. I could not help it, and I cannot bear to lose you… Your friendship, I mean.”

Her smile was a thing of the lips, not the heart, but she did the best she could. “We will always be friends, Alex.”

About the Author

Jude KnightJude Knight’s writing goal is to transport readers to another time, another place, where they can enjoy adventure and romance, thrill to trials and challenges, uncover secrets and solve mysteries, delight in a happy ending, and return from their virtual holiday refreshed and ready for anything.

She writes historical novels, novellas, and short stories, mostly set in the early 19th Century. She writes strong determined heroines, heroes who can appreciate a clever capable woman, villains you’ll love to loathe, and all with a leavening of humour.

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